Comments on: All About Bipolar: Dealing with people who provoke me http://allaboutbipolar.com/2009/04/27/all-about-bipolar-dealing-with-people-who-provoke-me/ Living With Bipolar Disorder Thu, 09 Feb 2012 09:16:53 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: admin http://allaboutbipolar.com/2009/04/27/all-about-bipolar-dealing-with-people-who-provoke-me/#comment-7343 admin Wed, 04 Jan 2012 23:01:14 +0000 http://allaboutbipolar.com/?p=75#comment-7343 *Please note that this post is almost three years old.* The posts on this blog were made so I could work through my biggest issues. I have been stable for close to two years at this time. Medication is not a "fix-all", but you can't will yourself well when you're experiencing a full-blown episode and often medication must be used so you can reach a point where you are capable of working through issues in this manner. This blog was my therapy. All posts are open and honest accounts of my thoughts, just as anyone else would disclose to a therapist in private. I simply chose to make my struggle public so others could learn from it and know they aren't alone. I analyzed my own issues, and this is what worked for me. I couldn't begin to tell you how many people have treated me condescendingly since I was diagnosed simply because they wanted to make me look like the bad guy - the bipolar girl. Many of those were family and friends who wanted to anger me just so they could ridicule me. It's not always the person who has bipolar disorder that is the problem, but they are the easiest scapegoat for everyone else. My biggest step towards wellness was recognizing this and separating myself from those people. Sadly, I am very perceptive and it took others much longer to "see through" certain people than it took me, and since I was just "the bipolar girl" people refused to believe me. It hurt, and I lashed out in anger at many of them and they were very pleased. This is one of several posts that I made to explore my issues with anger caused by certain people in order to find an effective solution. *Please note that this post is almost three years old.*

The posts on this blog were made so I could work through my biggest issues. I have been stable for close to two years at this time. Medication is not a “fix-all”, but you can’t will yourself well when you’re experiencing a full-blown episode and often medication must be used so you can reach a point where you are capable of working through issues in this manner. This blog was my therapy. All posts are open and honest accounts of my thoughts, just as anyone else would disclose to a therapist in private. I simply chose to make my struggle public so others could learn from it and know they aren’t alone. I analyzed my own issues, and this is what worked for me.

I couldn’t begin to tell you how many people have treated me condescendingly since I was diagnosed simply because they wanted to make me look like the bad guy – the bipolar girl. Many of those were family and friends who wanted to anger me just so they could ridicule me. It’s not always the person who has bipolar disorder that is the problem, but they are the easiest scapegoat for everyone else. My biggest step towards wellness was recognizing this and separating myself from those people. Sadly, I am very perceptive and it took others much longer to “see through” certain people than it took me, and since I was just “the bipolar girl” people refused to believe me. It hurt, and I lashed out in anger at many of them and they were very pleased. This is one of several posts that I made to explore my issues with anger caused by certain people in order to find an effective solution.

]]> By: Lorraine http://allaboutbipolar.com/2009/04/27/all-about-bipolar-dealing-with-people-who-provoke-me/#comment-7341 Lorraine Wed, 04 Jan 2012 22:05:19 +0000 http://allaboutbipolar.com/?p=75#comment-7341 I think that Sue's comment is horrible. I think that it isn't a game and that is the problem with the comment. People are not to be treated condescendingly because you don't like what they say and using medication as an excuse lack integrity. I think that you have to take responsibility for your actions, feelings, and behavior. Medications alone won't make it better. Just like any other disease if you want a life of health you have to fight hard for yourself to accomplish this. Exercise, therapy, healthy diet. I think you need to learn to roll with life and realize people can see through someone not meaning what they say and faking it with a smile. I think that Sue’s comment is horrible. I think that it isn’t a game and that is the problem with the comment. People are not to be treated condescendingly because you don’t like what they say and using medication as an excuse lack integrity. I think that you have to take responsibility for your actions, feelings, and behavior. Medications alone won’t make it better. Just like any other disease if you want a life of health you have to fight hard for yourself to accomplish this. Exercise, therapy, healthy diet. I think you need to learn to roll with life and realize people can see through someone not meaning what they say and faking it with a smile.

]]> By: Sue http://allaboutbipolar.com/2009/04/27/all-about-bipolar-dealing-with-people-who-provoke-me/#comment-4745 Sue Mon, 21 Nov 2011 08:59:05 +0000 http://allaboutbipolar.com/?p=75#comment-4745 first - I am so happy to come accross your blog! To realise that I am not the only one glued to a recliner with a security blanket at times when I can't get out of the house is sooooo liberating!! Relief!!!! As for people who try to draw you in, or antagonize you... practice in the mirror ahead of time.. remember, it's a game, and you have more on your side than any one else, 'cos you are so many sides of you all rolled up into one package - you just have to access the right one.. Mona Lisa wasn't smiling - she was pissed! but she was winning the game! picture her while you call your M in Law to the table "wow, that was rude" or "what a hurtful thing to say!" or if you want to buy time.. "why do you want to know?" (said behind a sweet smile of course). The trick is in the practice - they already think you're nuts, play with it and have some fun - if it doesn't go well, you can blame it on a med shift, if it goes well - woo hoo!! let me know. Good Luck! first – I am so happy to come accross your blog! To realise that I am not the only one glued to a recliner with a security blanket at times when I can’t get out of the house is sooooo liberating!! Relief!!!!
As for people who try to draw you in, or antagonize you… practice in the mirror ahead of time.. remember, it’s a game, and you have more on your side than any one else, ‘cos you are so many sides of you all rolled up into one package – you just have to access the right one.. Mona Lisa wasn’t smiling – she was pissed! but she was winning the game! picture her while you call your M in Law to the table “wow, that was rude” or “what a hurtful thing to say!” or if you want to buy time.. “why do you want to know?” (said behind a sweet smile of course). The trick is in the practice – they already think you’re nuts, play with it and have some fun – if it doesn’t go well, you can blame it on a med shift, if it goes well – woo hoo!! let me know. Good Luck!

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